Ep.3 Feminism ain't gonna get us far!

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Hello, hello, and

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welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm your host

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Aurora, and very happy to be spending some time with you

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today. Today might not be as relaxing, as usual, but it's

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just a topic I'm burning to talk about. It is about the sexual

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consent app, the debate, the discussion that is going on

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right now in the UK and the US. A couple women came out and

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yeah, pointed out guys that were mis conducting, mistreating

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harassing women themselves. Sorry. And now the government is

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trying to come up with ideas and stuff. And there's the talk

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about a consensual sex app, where when you go on a date, and

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it gets a little more intimate, you just click on this app and

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consent. And yeah, then go about your business. Of course, both

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parties do that. And I think this is absolutely dramatic,

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too, to know that we reached a point us heterosexuals that

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where we need an app to consent, and to make sure that we both

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want the same. I don't know how we got there. But I should know

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that we definitely need to communicate better and be on the

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same page more often, if not all the time. I think this problem

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that society is facing right now will not be solved with good old

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feminism. I think this is not a problem between men and women, I

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think it's a problem of power. And give me a second here it is

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a problem between men and women. But there's so many men out

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there who have good intentions, a good heart who are shy and

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humble. And we can put these guys into the same box, then

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these monsters who keep Miss Miss guiding people or misusing

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their power. Feminism was good in the 70s was good to a certain

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point. And it's still very, very good to get things down when it

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comes to equality. But when it comes to sexual harassment, we

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have to stick together after the me to movement, there were so

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many guys that came out and showed up for us women, and

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showed their support and their love and their respect and

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communicated it. And it was so beautiful to see. And those same

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man, we as women have to protect here and have to Yeah, set

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apart. Those are the guys that we need to conquer these other

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guys. And then I have a question for women like how can it be

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that we give those guys those aggressive bullies so much

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power? I think we still are guilty to some degree to fall

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for the asshole at times or to be too shy to set boundaries.

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And this is on our part we can learn to call those people out

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who behave in an aggressive way in in a sexually aggressive way.

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We have to learn how to communicate boundaries and how

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to be firm with them. And then we have to do everything to also

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be listened to and less of course again as up to the judge

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up to society. But they've been to many cases where women audio

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say that in English. They said something how And, and never

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anything happened.

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And then there's too many women out there who were raped, and

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decided to not speak out because they knew that it's not going to

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be a cheap piece of cheesecake to get out and talk about it and

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they're not going to feel supported and treated well, they

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will be questioned, and they will be put in a corner and

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mistreated mentally, even more and emotionally even more. So it

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is a very tough topic to address, I get that. But I think

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my message here is that we cannot fight that fight on our

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own. As women we need good man. If we want to talk about good

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and bad here, we need the good supportive, supportive men to

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fight this fight, we have to see that those women that were out

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there fighting for equality, standing up for feminism, they

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had babies, and those babies were not only girls that were

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guys too, and they raised those guys in a very good way. And

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there's more women out there who raise their boys in a very good

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way they respect women growing up, and they know how to

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communicate and know how to read what a woman wants and needs. So

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we have to, again, protect these men and take them by the hand

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and do this together. I hope this all makes sense to you.

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It's a very short episode today, because it's an intense topic.

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And I don't want to disturb you too much. I just wanted to put

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that out there. And hope you have a wonderful rest of your

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day. We need each other. I'm all for unity and good

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communication. And I'm very excited to be posting a new

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episode with Shaun Dustin soon, where we talk about stuff that

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we're not proud of we talk about abusive behavior, imperative

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behavior, and how we are supporting each other and

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helping each other out and can be better people now. And the

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toughest, toughest part for both of us was the day to realize

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that we were actually abuser. So maybe you can maybe you can see

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this, the opposite side and it's said to well take good care of

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yourself. And I'll be out there tomorrow. Again.