Ep. 24 Take a breath with me [self-care]

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Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

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experience. I'm your host and life coach. Aurora. I'm so happy

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to have you here. I'm so happy to be spending some time with

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you. I hope you feel good. I hope you feel heard. Understood.

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I hope you feel you can express yourself that feels authentic to

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you. And I hope that you're living the life that you're

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meant to live. And if not, I hope I can bring you some joy

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and hope value with my podcast here. Today, I want to talk

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about taking a break, stopping for a moment to take a breath to

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reflect to maybe put your feet up. Sometimes we push ourselves

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and other people around

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to get our needs met, to have projects done. And time sorry,

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I'm just closing the windows here because it's a little bit

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loud outside. And in doing so we get things done. But we get

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things done with kind of a resentful energy, kind of an

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energy that is not really pleasant to be around and not

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really awesome to experience in our own skin. We push push,

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push, we push our limits at work, we push our limits, maybe

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with our hobbies, we push our limits with our relationships.

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And it doesn't really bring us any satisfaction. So sometimes

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you just got to dial down, go back to simplicity. And make

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life a little bit more simple again, and especially be less

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hard on you. And know that things will get accomplished.

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Things will get done. You will get your point across you will

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feel understood, heard and seen. But pushing might not be the

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right thing at this time. And it doesn't really matter what you

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are pushing for. Maybe you're pushing for a relationship that

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you want to see unfold a relationship that you want to

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see change a job that you want to have or a job that you want

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to change a goal that you want to reach. Right sometimes we are

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so focused on a goal and it makes us forget about all the

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important stuff outside of our goal, setting connections,

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genuine connection with the people we love. genuine

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expression of how we feel playfulness, and lightness. And

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you might say yeah, that's good too. But right now I want to

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focus. But sometimes too much focus is not good and it's going

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to make you rigid and hard. It's gonna make you beat yourself up

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when you don't reach certain goals in a in a certain

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timeframe. And that is really not necessary. I invite you to

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befriend the term of gentle assertiveness, gentle,

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consistent consistency. You can be consistent, assertive,

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persistent, and you don't have to be a joke about it. You can

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be gentle on yourself and others and trust that things will

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unfold in a way that you might maybe not have anticipated.

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Take a couple of really deep breaths with me. And notice how

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much tension you're holding in your body maybe right now. It's

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really important to notice this tension because that tension

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doesn't lie that's your state. And you can change it by making

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conscious decisions, to relax by engaging in activities that are

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going to help you release tension. All too often we think

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and feel that we need to tense up and muscle through and

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hustle. But that will burn you out. So it's good practice to

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notice when you start tensing up, and then to relax, because

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this will make you resilient over the long term. And this is

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how you will make sustainable steps. This is how you will

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progress. It is really important that you don't forget about

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this, especially when you are on a path of growth and healing and

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excelling in this world. But also, if you are in a situation

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that you don't really like at the moment, change will come at

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its time. And you can prepare yourself to embrace the change,

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but you cannot force it. Yeah. So I'm gonna stay a couple more

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moments with you, and quietness and stillness. And hold space

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for you to just decompress for a little bit. And it will not be

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longer than three minutes, it might even be shorter in case

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your ego your mind is jumping in and wants to jump to the next

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podcast or next social media scrolling activity, or whatever

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it is allow yourself to have these couple

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of minutes of pure stillness. And you notice your breath. And

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you scan through your body one more time. And notice where

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there is tension that you might want to let go off and you trust

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that everything will be done at its own time.

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Thank you so much for being here. And thank you for having

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an open heart and open mind to receive my message to allow

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stillness because it is these little gaps and activities,

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little gaps in between thoughts that give us genuine rest. This

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is where we can make our best decisions where we can be

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ourselves where we can ground ourselves. And then from this

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point on, we will be conscious and careful and mindful about

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what we do next. So this is actually also a little teaser

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about what you can expect when you come to the year. I'm

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holding space for people from all walks of life. And

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especially the people that went through heartbreak in their life

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or disappointment, trauma, and wanna engage in a journey that

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helps them heal a little further I'd feel honored to be a

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stepping stone on your journey to get yourself to a more

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have a great rest of your day until next time bye bye