Ep. 24 Straight outta quarantine [self-care]

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Hello, and welcome to the Borealis experience, we are

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still right and I'm very happy to be spending some time with

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you today. I'm currently still in Germany, visiting my family.

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And yeah, I thought I was gonna make some time today and send

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out a podcast episode for you what people will remember about

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you, I feel it's an important thing to think about. Because

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oftentimes we think we have to do a bunch of things, we have to

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bend, we have to overly adapt, change our nature, do things

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that we don't really want to do, in order to fit in in order to

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touch people's hearts in order to be part of society, in order

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to belong. And I'm here today to tell you that it is way easier

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than you think, to be memorable, to have an impact on people's

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lives.

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Another thing I want to talk about today is the way we treat

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each other right now, during those messy COVID times. And

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now, that is very closely tied into how people will remember

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you. I feel that a lot of people are very strongly opinionated

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right now. And for good reason, we all feel that there is a big

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change coming up, we all feel uncertain, we all feel fear

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uncertainty together. And it's a lot, it's too much for most of

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us, some of us lost our jobs, some of us are in deep distress.

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And that is when reality circumstances bring out the

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worst and people. And the way we treat each other, during those

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times is going to have an impact of like on our future

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relationships, because we're not quite as good as elephants, and

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memorizing and remembering how people made us feel. But some of

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us are really, really good at that. It's kind of protective

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mechanism to right, like when someone treats you bad, you

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remember because next time around, you want to avoid that

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topic, that situation, maybe the person altogether. So first of

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all, I want to raise awareness on how you approach the

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situation right now and how radical you are with your views.

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Because imagine from one day to another, this situation being

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lifted, and all the stress gone. What is left over left over is

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how we treated each other. And how we made each other feel the

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things we said the things we've done. And we have to be aware of

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that we can just be emotionally driven, or ego driven and

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wanting to get our point across to every person with me in need.

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And for people who are not on the same page as us. treating

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them poorly, ignoring them, shutting them out, judging them,

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maybe even hurting them verbally. And I really really

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couldn't care less on which side you are right now. It doesn't

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matter because we all have our own little realities, we all

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have our own assumptions. We all have our own routines. We all

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have our own perspective. And what's really important for me

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is that we learn to see that every person has their own thing

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going on. And we cannot force another person to think the same

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way we do. I live in Canada, with my boyfriend, grandma and

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mom. The only people who are really on the same page in my

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life is my boyfriend, and then a couple of friends here in

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Germany. And he in Germany, and the only person who has one

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opinion. And it was really interesting for me to see that.

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It's possible to not talk about the hot topics and to still get

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along. And to know that Yeah, the other person is in a very

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different page. But we focus on something else, we focus on

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quality time, and other topics. And that's super, super awesome

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that this is possible. And now back to the title, the original

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topic of this episode. What are the things that people are going

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to remember I do, and I can just emphasize this, I can't

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emphasize this

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enough that people are going to judge you people are going to

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remember you on how you made them feel. Did you make people?

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Did you make a person Sorry? feel inferior? Did you make a

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person feel awesome and empowered? Did you question

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their behavior to put them on a spot? To listen? Or were you the

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one constantly talking and trying to educate? People will

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remember that people will remember how you made them feel.

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And nothing else. Because people are too busy with their own

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lives. They're too busy with their thoughts. Yes, this odd

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exception is people who can deeply connect with you and be

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1,000%. present with you. But even those people have their own

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lives, and they think of you. And then remember, how did that

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person make me feel and it's not necessarily a conscious thought,

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you know, conscious, again of wareness. But on an emotional

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level of emotional bodies, so to say, Well remember how people

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made us feel. And in the future, if you, for instance, take a

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person who didn't make you feel good, and you still choose to

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meet up with that person for other stronger reasons, your

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body might react, and you might be sweating, you might be

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nervous, you might have a slight headache right after, you might

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have a stomach ache, or you might have backache or a stiff

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neck, when you choose to not listen how a person made you

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feel, and still meeting up with them. It's very interesting how

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oftentimes we choose to go against our soul, against our

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nature, in order to fit in in order to belong. And it is very

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nice, very, like eye opening, mind opening, when you are aware

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of how people made you feel in the past and how you interact

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with them today. And so it goes with people you interact with. I

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want to apologize for all the background noise here in

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Germany, as I said, and there's just lots of people around here

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just tried to find a most quiet spot for you, but it's still way

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louder than when I'm back home in Canada. So how you make your

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person feel when you meet up with a person do you think about

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all the stuff you want to get out and share with them and you

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want to get advice you want to see a reaction. You want to

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Yeah, know what they think about your stuff? Or are you truly

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interested in them in what they are accomplishing and how they

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feel on a daily level and what their dreams are and and then

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even going back to their childhood or family stories.

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Again, here didn't live voice already that when you show

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genuine interest in a person, they will not forget, they will

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feel touched, you will be able to touch their heart. And people

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don't forget about that. So, for the next couple of days until I

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publish my next episode, I want you to be aware of how you

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interact with people and how you make people feel. Because a lot

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of times when we are navigating difficult times when we feel

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lonely, when we feel life is tough, and people are being

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annoying, and people are just assholes, right? When we start

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being aware of how we interact with people and start noticing,

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oh, shit, like, I'm actually being short, fused, very

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impatient, hostile. And this is why my partner's rejecting me.

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Or this is why my children throw one tantrum after another. And I

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just very,

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yeah, difficult to be around. If we start looking at ourselves,

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and how we interact and what energy we put out there towards

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people, we start seeing things and then we can change these

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things. In the future, I want to talk about how we can change

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things that we see about ourselves. But yeah, don't like

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want to change and then how we can go about this. It is such a

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beautiful journey to be on, when you become self aware of what

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you put out into this world. And I'm very excited to be on this

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journey with you. As I promised, I will be offering coaching

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calls here soon where we can talk about your stuff. And no

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matter where you're at in life, sometimes we feel stuck. And

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sometimes it is nice to pour your heart out to a stranger and

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then reorganize yourself and maybe even let go of beliefs,

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patterns, happy habits, sorry. And steer the wheel of your life

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into a different direction. I'm going to call my business monkey

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mind coaching because I love that expression of the monkey

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mind. And very at war with my monkey mind that at times and I

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learned to accept it and make sense of it and befriended. And

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it's a very fun journey sometimes even to be on. And

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sometimes it's very tough. And then it's wonderful to have kind

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of a wing woman next to you. Where, as I said, you can pour

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your heart out as you can tell. Talk about your process and your

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wins and your failures. things you want to do better in the

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future. And from there, we can steer your wheel into the

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direction that will help you reach your goals and get closer

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to your dreams. Thank you endlessly for listening today.

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me. take really good care of yourself. Until next time, bye

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bye