Ep. 21 Why are you so exhausted?

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Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

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experience. I'm your host Aurora. And I'm very happy to be

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spending some time with you today.

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Especially on a day where you feel exhausted.

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Maybe you feel good today. And you're listening to this

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episodes, or this one here, especially to be more resilient

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in the future and to know how to connect back to yourself, how to

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recharge your batteries.

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But maybe you're having a really crappy day.

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Maybe you feel upset, or maybe life is just not running

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smoothly for you at the moment.

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Maybe you spend too much time on social media, on your computer,

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and you just can't stop it, you can come up with the discipline

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that it takes to stay away from social media a little bit. I

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know that feeling all too well. And trust me, I'm the biggest

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social media fan. I love it. I love how you can connect with

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people from all over the world.

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But it can be very draining. And today's message, I think is

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first and foremost for your mind for your relaxation. But your

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body also plays a huge role when it comes to feeling exhausted.

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Your body communicates to your brain how you feel. It is not

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only your brain and what you consume, and how you feel about

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it, that makes you feel how you feel

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it is your body

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is your body dehydrated, is your body hungry is your body in a

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position that that it doesn't like it will communicate to you

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discomfort. And when you ignore it for too long, the signals

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will get louder and louder and more uncomfortable until you

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react to it. I'm a person for instance, if I go too long

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without food, I go and get super hangry. So hangry ness is the

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body

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throwing hormones and all kinds of signals red flags into your

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bloodstream. And those communicate to your brain, hey,

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stress, react, change something, in this case, eat.

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You know these pictures all too well of people looking down at

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their phone, instead of communicating with their wife or

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the person waiting for the bus. Looking down at your phone, that

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posture is so so bad for your overall mental health.

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an upright body position, a proud body per position makes

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you feel good, your body can inhale and exhale freely, and

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you can move your joints freely. As soon as you slouch, the

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breathing gets shallow, and the body is in a position that

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communicates to you that you are sad and tired and exhausted. So

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not only the overstimulation of social media or the internet can

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tire you out and always having to have an opinion and always

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having to have a judgement is tiring. But your body position.

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And then imagine

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on Saturday, you feel exhausted from your work week. And it was

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not really physical week, it was just mentally very draining, yet

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you feel physically drained as well. And then you just decide

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to stay on the couch for the whole weekend. Because you feel

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tired, but that tiredness comes from your brain and sometimes

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even under stimulation, it is not a real tiredness of your

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physique. So sometimes we have to overcome we have to observe a

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little closer and be aware that this tiredness can be countered

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with exercising or just going for a walk and have some fresh

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air.

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So for today, for when we feel exhausted already, what can we

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do? We can just sit down in a comfortable seat or you lay down

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on your mat on your floor.

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If you choose to sit down, cross your legs in front of you shift

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your pelvis. If you set bonds on the ground, right, shift your

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pelvis that you have a little bit of an arch in your lumbar

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spine.

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roll your shoulders up and back.

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Tuck your chin slightly to elongate your neck, and close

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your eyes. If you choose to lay down,

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heavy legs a little bit spread apart and your feet kind of

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flopping open to the side.

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So your feet are opening up to the sky.

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And your hands, your arms are a little bit spread apart from

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your body, and you have your pants opening up to the sky. And

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now you let your head, your shoulders, your pelvis and your

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heels. sink in heavily into the mat.

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Beautiful. Now close your eyes if you feel like it today.

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Take a deep inhale through your nose.

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And exhale through your mouth.

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Inhale

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and exhale.

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Beautiful.

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And now feel how restoring it feels to be in those two

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different positions.

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You're all by yourself. Or maybe you chose to do that meditation

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with a friend or a relative today you are at peace.

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It is quiet around you.

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If there is noise as just try to focus in on your breath.

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Beautiful.

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Know that we live in a very fast paced society.

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And I think no matter where you live on this planet Earth,

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life is becoming faster and faster.

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And we're not necessarily made to keep up with that speed.

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Sometimes we can sometimes it feels even effortless.

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But sometimes it's just not rolling, right? It's just

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too much.

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Maybe you're a young parent,

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maybe your children always want something from you.

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You have a hard time to be a caring wife at the same time.

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Maybe COVID struggle is still affecting your finances and your

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overall well being.

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It doesn't really matter

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who you are, excuse me, and in which situation you find

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yourself.

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Because we're all in that state of mind at times.

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The difference between people is how they deal with those

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feelings, feelings of exhaustion. Do you keep pushing

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through? Or do you allow yourself to rest? Do you set

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firm boundaries with others, especially the people that you

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love to take care of yourself.

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And by setting boundaries and by taking care of yourself, I don't

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mean locking yourself up in the bathroom. But this can be an

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option at times.

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Sometimes I do that. I just take my sweet time and the bathroom,

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doing nothing.

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washing my hands, my face, being really present with myself.

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looking into my eyes, and knowing

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and everything was fine, everything will be fine. So you

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have these little moments in your daily life where you can

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just sneak in a little meditation or sneak in a little

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self love, practice.

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Practice where you praise yourself, where you embrace

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yourself, where you let go of regrets and pain, where you let

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go of shame where you let go of judgment and having an opinion

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at all times.

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You can just be and breathe, and experience and feel.

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Maybe you are running around and trying to fix and trying to

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accomplish things, maybe you're that kind of person, then of

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course, it is exhausting. But maybe you're fighting depression

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and maybe you're sitting at home and not doing much, really. But

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that can be very exhausting to to be sitting there with your

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own thoughts.

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To not find a grip on life.

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We all feel like that sometimes.

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It is okay.

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I feel today's episode, the time you take aside for yourself

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today is to be okay, where are you at, and to not try to fight.

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But to trust, to trust that things will change again, to

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trust that you're open to receive guidance. And to trust

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that everything will be fine, you will be fine. And there's a

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solution on its way for you.

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Because if we reach that state of mind, where we can trust and

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relax, we can attract goodness into our lives again.

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Same goes with people. If you are

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in a shitty situation, if you feel totally drained, exhausted,

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and you're fighting it and you're resenting it and you're

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upset with it, you will at the same time, push away people

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if you are okay, if you accept things to be bad at times,

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things to be difficult at times. But you have a hopeful outlook.

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And you are open and warm with your surroundings, you ask maybe

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for help, then people are more inclined to stick around and pay

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their for your support, because you're not pushing them away.

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Focus again into your breath. And now notice how warm air is

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leaving your body. And fresh cool air is entering your body.

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So you're processing the air that is coming in.

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Maybe you can imagine a white light going up your spine,

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whenever you inhale,

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that light goes up your spine. And whenever you exhale.

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It maybe turns into blue and goes down again down your spine.

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You can draw in air positivity, and you can exhale blue air air

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that you don't need in your body anymore.

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Very good. You can do that a couple times. And you can

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continue this beyond my little episodes here today.

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And know that everything will be fine and know that you might

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just have to find the source of your draining.

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Find your source of exhaustion. Is it people that you surround

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yourself with that exhaust you?

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Is it yourself? Do you have difficulties to set boundaries

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with yourself? Are you always chasing perfectionism? You're

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always chasing goals and accomplishments.

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Is it your environment that is exhausting you? Is it very

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noisy? Is it smelly? Maybe even Is it a very fast paced

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environment we live and it's just against your nature.

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Be curious about your exhaustion to find out what it is that

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drains you. And then we can be better at

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limiting the exhaustion sources limiting the stress

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and in doing so we can be more resilient in the future. We can

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set boundaries accordingly and be good and firm with them

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because we know and setting them we can be our best self.

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Now continue breathing continue being with yourself here. Feel

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free to choose another meditation if

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You want to spend a little more time with yourself.

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But otherwise, I'm going to let you go now and thank you from

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the bottom of my heart to share my little podcast here.

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It is my heart's mission to make our society more resilient to

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make you love yourself more.

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Thank you. I'll be out there tomorrow again. Bye bye