Ep. 17 How do you lead your life [ time for honest reflection ]

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Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

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experience. I'm your host Aurora, life coach and companion

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on this beautiful journey called life. I hope you feel good, you

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the people around you. And hope I can bring you value with my

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you for listening. Thank you for being here. And I respect you so

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much for having the courage to reflect about your life, about

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yourself about your behaviors and your relationships. Not

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everybody does that. And the people who do I simply look up

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to and feel drawn to. So thank you so much for being here.

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Today, I want to talk about your life. That's very simple and

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small, right? Very straightforward. But I went on

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my my little walk here today, and I wondered how other people

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experience life. Because the more I coached people, the more

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I realized that we all have such a different perspective on life,

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on experiences. We make very different conclusions about

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life, even though we went through the very same thing. So

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today's episode is basically a question. How do you experience

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life? Do you see your life on a timeline, from when you were

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born until you'll be dead? Or on your deathbed, or transitioning?

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To not be as harsh? If you go into birds perspective? Do you

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see yourself being born and then going to kindergarten, maybe

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spending time with your friends and siblings or caregivers went

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to high school and now you see yourself where you are in the

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present moment and then into the future? And then all the way

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into the future where you'll be transitioning? Or do you see and

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experience your life? Like a list of accomplishments you know

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like boxes that you want to take off a bucket list that you want

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to attend to. And you go from accomplishment to Accomplishment

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from goal to goal or are you a dreamer to your dream and just

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float like a feather in the air and just see where life takes

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you. That's totally valid as well. Or do you got other

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experiences you have something in mind that you want to

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experience and then you go chase that experience those feelings

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Yeah, I know a couple of people who would live like that they

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want to it's not always adrenaline or dopamine driven.

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But sometimes they're always thirsty for something new and

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something else and something different and then they feel

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satisfied. And they feel they can go lay on their deathbed one

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day and feel good about themselves, but not everybody is

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like that. And then I have other people who gather memories

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throughout life. They live in the past, basically. And it's

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hard for me to understand how somebody can have so much in the

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past, because how do you go forward that and but some people

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just, you know live their life on autopilot. And their mind is

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always drawn to the past to memories. They're very nostalgic

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and, and deeply feeling people. But they're always drawn back.

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They love to be alone lots and they love to have very, you

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know, old friendships that they can share memories with. And

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it's not so much about making new memories, but about holding

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on to old memories. Maybe there's many, many, many

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different ways that you can live your life, maybe you live, you

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live through somebody else, maybe you have children and you

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live your life through their eyes. Maybe you have a job that

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you are totally immersed in. And you are at the mercy of that job

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of the company you lead. I just find that. Yeah, I find it very

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interesting to ask people these questions. Because we're always

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rushed. We always run around accomplished to do less we get

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our job done better or not so good on other days. We socialize

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we fulfills social, like societal expectations and then

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we feel good. That's another one. You keep chasing the

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fulfilling of society, expectations, societal

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expectations. Is that what drives you? Yeah, basically what

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that question boils down to is what drives you? What, Where

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does your mind spend most of the time and energy Some people live

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in regrets and pain, past pain. Some people live in deep anxiety

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because they keep thinking about the future and because

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everything is uncertain and everything changes all the time.

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They live in constant anxiety for some people's stress of

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which depression and anxiety is part of it. But you know, high

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strung stress is how they experience life. It always has

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to be fast paced, and pushy and runny and just exhausting. But

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then they feel life then they feel good. That's normal for

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them. What is it for you? So I invite you to sit down on times

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and just to reflect about how you lead your life. And if you

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were to fast forward, if you'd be happy on how you live your

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life. I wonder for myself it's It's important though, because

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you don't want to regret and a couple of years because you can

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turn that time. All right. I'm gonna leave you with that little

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bit of wandering, a little bit of calm and quietness. And once

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again if you have a comment if you have a request. If you just

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location. All right, I'll leave you with that with lots of love.

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And I'll be out there very soon again. Bye bye