Ep.10 Your Monkey mind [Mindset and thoughts]

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Hello, and

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welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm your host

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Aurora. I'm very happy to be spending some time with you

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today. Thank you so much for being here. I hope the COVID

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situation is not bugging you too much. I hope you don't feel too

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lonely. I hope you got things to do. I hope you got friends to

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talk to a warm place to stay. And a warm, hard to live from. I

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live in Canada and the Rocky Mountains, it's very, very cold

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here. And for the last two days, I didn't have water in my house.

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Today it came back because the temperatures were at minus two

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degrees again, instead of minus 30. And I must say I feel like a

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million bucks right now. I was able to take a shower, I don't

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have to worry about going to the bathroom, I was able to do a

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laundry. And then I took a chance to paint my fingernails.

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And I don't have to calculate how much water I want to drink

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during the day.

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So

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a huge stress has been lifted from my shoulders. And

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yesterday, I was pretty interesting to observe my mind

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because I caught my monkey mind being that

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judgmental aggressive bitch again. But now I learned to not

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let my monkey mind a rule my life. For example, I was going

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for groceries.

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And

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I don't know every person that was kind of there, minding her

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or his business triggered me and I had like thoughts of Yeah,

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swearing thoughts in my brain because I was in so much

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distress with no water situation. And I just had a bad

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day because I had to think and feel a lot about my friend who

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had passed away around this time of year, a couple years back. So

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I was just in a very dark place. And sometimes when we are in

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those places, we take it out on others and it is not our core.

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It is not our intention, it is not our nature that is being

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that judgmental, harsh bitch in that moment. It is our ego. I

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call it the monkey mind because I just like that word so much.

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It is your ego that is wounded that is heard that feels

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triggered and that reacts to stimulus from the outside. And

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when you observe your monkey mind, you can very quickly

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distinguish between your true soul message that you want to

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put out there in the world. And your ego talking. Your ego is

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usually very judgmental,

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jealous,

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very negative and fear driven. The fear is what drives the ego

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and on the same. Like on the other side at the same time I

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want to say it wants to to be protected from further pain that

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happened in the past. So it's not a bad thing the ego like you

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can live in total ego. Like with dissolved ego, you always have

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your ego close by and it's good if it's a healthy confidence if

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it's healthy pride. But as soon as it becomes too competitive,

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and as soon as you keep comparing yourself to others,

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then you can be sure your ego is at play. And meditation helps

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you to observe that ego. When you sit down at night or in the

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morning or whenever you wish to. You observe your thoughts you

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observe how you reacted in certain situations during your

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day. And then while you sit there you can do distinguish was

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I operating from my heart space or from my ego, from my mind,

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from my ego, monkey mind, space. And then while you observe it,

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you can distinguish. And then in the future, you can correct it,

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change it adapted. So whatever we observe whatever we reveal,

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whatever we bring to light out of the darkness, we can observe

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in the future and correct. And this is such a beautiful thing

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to realize, because you don't have to be that victim, you

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don't have to be that aggressive person, you don't have to be

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that jealous, insecure person, you can go behind the reason and

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let go of it and observe yourself, every time you fall

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back into that trigger every time you feel the need to have a

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strong opinion, that is separating people instead of

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bringing them together, when you have a judgement about someone.

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And it is just because of your past experience, it has nothing

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to do with them, then you can reach back and come back to your

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true self. And know that that little voice that was guiding

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you for so long, can be pushed aside. It can be silenced, you

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can turn the volume down, like you do with your radio, when

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you're driving in your car, or wherever you listen to music. So

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your ego can be very annoying. It can annoy you. Like if you

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know eka tala is a spiritual leader that I really look up to

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because he was really a couple hours. Before his suicide, he

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was like, so done with life. He hated everything, he couldn't

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get out of his sadness. And he was so ready to commit suicide.

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And then he suddenly heard his voice say, heard him say, I

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don't want to live with myself anymore. And in that moment, and

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for every person that is different, you don't have to be

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just before suicide. But for him, it was like, Wait a second,

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like, who just said that? I don't want to live with myself

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anymore? Well, I don't, I don't have to be that person anymore.

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So he realized that he's not his thoughts. He's not his monkey

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mind. He's not as ego. That thing can be like a broken

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record. And so repetitive and your thoughts are always around

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the same subjects. And when you relate to people, it's always

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the same way. While you can break out of it, you can make

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changes, and you can be the most powerful version of yourself.

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Once you recognize that you are not your thoughts, your thoughts

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Is there like a sense, they're like a sense because whatever

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happens outside of you, you have an opinion, you have a judgment,

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you are being reminded to your past. And then you have these

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thoughts.

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And these thoughts, in turn, stimulate emotions, all the

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emotions come up when you have that certain thought. And then

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you have that feeling in your body. And you don't like that

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feeling in your body. And then you engage in that habit that

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you have to make you feel better. Do you see that vicious

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cycle when we follow our thoughts too much? When you let

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the monkey mind, rule your world instead of your heart. And now

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you can ask, well what is acting from the heart space? How can I

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go back to that? First step is to observe your thoughts. And

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especially in situations where you feel strong emotions coming

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up. Of course, if you're encountering the saber toothed

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tiger, an extreme fear of survival is being triggered.

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Then you have the uncomfortable emotions and an uncomfortable

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feeling in your body and you have to react. But chances are

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you are living in a city or in the countryside and you're

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pretty safe and you have everything you need water, food,

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shelter, friends. And there's situations that bring that

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feeling out and out inside of you. But only because it's an

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old wound that hasn't healed yet. It can be an old memory

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that makes you feel shitty about yourself. And it still makes you

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mad. And it brings these thoughts up these emotions as

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physical sensation. And then you have to engage in that stupid

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habit again, that makes you feel better. Now, next time you feel

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triggered, or you feel your monkey mind is ruling, wait, and

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count until three until five, maybe until 10. And see what

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happens. Because what the ego thinks that ego things, it can

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control everything, it can prevent everything. But that

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deer Love is not possible. If you go into the life, thinking

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that you can control anything, you are in a very weak spot,

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because I'd rather you be going out there and thinking that

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everything is a coincidence, or everything can change in a

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second, and nothing is predictable. Because then you

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can enjoy the moments that last for a little longer. If you

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think that there's no change and changes are preventable, then

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you make yourself a very hard life. So observe your thoughts

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and see how you want to react in certain situations, what you

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want to say, Is it really necessary? Or can you be kind,

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can you be compassionate, instead of reacting quickly. And

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I don't mean with others first, I mean, with your firm with

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yourself first. And when you can be compassionate with yourself

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and see, hey, okay, I feel triggered. Now, I want to react

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so strongly, because I don't like that situation. And you can

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remember why you feel so triggered and make peace with

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that thing that annoys you so much. And don't let it suck more

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energy out of you the necessary, then you can move on. And next

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time, you might only have to count until two. And then you

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know, our shit. I feel triggered again, by us trying to rule

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again. Let's wait a second and see if we can approach this

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situation in a more healthy way. I will talk way more about that

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topic because I'm super passionate about it. And that's

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one of the things that helped me the most to sit with my thoughts

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and to observe my thoughts during the day and tend to

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readjust. For now. I think it's enough. I don't want to

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overwhelm you. You were listening to the Borealis

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are on this and you can have a peek into my life. I share lots

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about my dog and my my chickens and my farm life out here. And

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yeah, be lovely to connect. Thank you so much. Bye bye