Ep. 18 The path to true healing and empowerment interview w/ Dr. Kirpal Singh MD

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Welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm your host

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Aurora, and I'm very excited to have Dr. Singh with me today, we

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will be talking about health and how you can maybe start a

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practice and change habits in order to live a more fulfilled

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and healthy life. Welcome Dr. Singh to the Borealis

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experience, I'm very pleased to introduce you.

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First, we would like to know a little bit about your

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background. And then we jump into Yeah, the practices and the

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habits that you would suggest for people to be more healthy

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and happy with their life. Thank you, Aurora, for inviting me to

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your program.

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My full name is Dr. kirpal Singh.

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And I'm retired.

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I did go to medical school in India, then five years I spent

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in England, became board certified in psychiatry and

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family practice then came to the United States in 71. And I've

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been here in practice, you know, in the hospital, practice,

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clinics, private practice all worked with the prisons and a

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wide variety of experience. That's my background. Wow. So

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what would you say? Now that you've had such, like, so many

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years of experience? What would you say? people's struggle with

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most? Because I feel most of the time the physical body becomes

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sick, because of the mind because of Yeah, unhealthy

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habits. Was there anything that you observed over the years that

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maybe every? That's a good question? Yeah. Yeah, my working

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hypothesis or working away,

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as I understand the disease processes, I call it

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biological, psychological, social, and spiritual. These are

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different components of it, and they go hand in hand.

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One is not separate from the other.

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It's like four wheels of a car.

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If they are in proper alignment, the car runs properly. If then

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disalignment, then it has a rocky

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you know, Rocky?

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way. So that's same as the good health.

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When we approach the good health from those four angles, four

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dimensions, I think we can have a pleasant, optimistic and

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fruitful life.

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But if any of them is disturbed, we need to fix it

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politely and encourage people to bring about a change so that

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they can have their life, life running smoothly. Mm hmm. Most

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of the good health is based on prevention.

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and to a lesser degree on the curative aspect, which is

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important too. But even when we have them get gotten them

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better, with less a with the medication, they still need to

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bring about a lifestyle change, paying attention to all those

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four components, which I mentioned. Without that change.

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There is a no lasting transformation in personal life.

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They keep sort of running from one

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data strategy to another. Mm hmm. Yeah, I totally understand

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that. And it is very hard to change habits.

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But it is necessary to know that we are in charge, we are in

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power of our health. We're not victims of diseases, we can have

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such a healthy and in alignment. lifestyle, like you said, that

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we can fight off diseases easier than if we thought that we have

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no power over our health. Right?

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That is correct. As a matter of fact, I believe our birth is a

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blessing at birth. We are not born in sin.

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We are given the gift of life.

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We have given gift of talents. and we are given the freewill to

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make choices

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which we can and depending on that how we choose our

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lifestyle.

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We can have our direction that way. But it's like the

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You know,

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you cannot.

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So

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bad crops and then expect the good results.

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In other words, this kind of seeds you sow in your life,

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that's what they grow. So the good health practices really

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start from the childhood. Yes, that we have to raise our

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children

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with good role models that role models involve, you know,

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getting good caring, as far as their personal needs are

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concerned, their nutritional needs, and then good things to

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play with.

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And connecting with their nature by looking at watching how

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things are going on, and enjoying them. And also good

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Spiritual Education. You know, in which you learn stories, that

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you know the Creator, whatever name you want to call it. Or if

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you don't, even if you don't believe in it, that's fine too.

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But still there is something call it higher power, call it no

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power about our there is something which controls our

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affairs.

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And that control is delegated to us

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in the form of freewill,

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that is our capacity to choose. So depending on how we choose if

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we made a wrong choice, then what we can always make another

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choice. So making a mistake is not a sin. making a mistake is

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not

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a you know, you should not create low self esteem. making a

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mistake does not mean we are no good. It simply means another

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chance to improve ourselves.

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That's very beautiful.

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So as we take advantage of those opportunities,

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experiment with them,

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the better we get it, and it becomes then a joyful life.

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Instead of the one feeling that I'm no good.

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Because God created everyone good. God didn't put us in this

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world to punish us.

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Because God does not hate us. God does not threaten us, God

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loves us. And if you don't believe whatever it is, your

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belief system or no belief system, spell love will love it

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by your parents love the society love nature, look, the free gift

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of the air, our natural resources, free gift to the

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water, food we and the ground on which we live provides all kinds

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of amenities for us to live good life. These are the gifts which

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are given to us naturally our natural resources the more we

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examine them, more we relate to them and only more we use them

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the better we get at it and the all becomes an aid to our joyful

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life. Yes. So, beautifully said and I totally agree and see and

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feel that this is the right path to healing.

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You said you worked with people also in prison and people who

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yeah went on the wrong path. So to say and maybe people even who

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struggle with addiction, if we can share with them that this is

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where you have to come back to you have to come back to

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nurturing food to the source of water, fresh air appreciating

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nature, then you can go back onto your your right path and

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how do you address

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because you you talked about forgiveness. How do you help

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people to forgive themselves and to to help train their mind

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to work for them instead of against them?

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worldwide. I think forgiveness is the key.

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If we really believe that we love another person. We

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believe that you know we are all gets in gains by virtue of being

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members of the same species.

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And if we really believe that we are all children are the same

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God or no God, if you want to call it, that we all have the

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Equal Rights,

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then I think we have also to understand, we have the equal

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rights to make mistakes too. Like we have the equal rights to

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be able to

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say.

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So all that processes by hidden trial,

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and we need not keep the venue and sinners. But on the other

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hand, remember,

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anyone trying to do things honestly and properly and

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appropriately can do mistakes.

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And if they have done, they deserve to be forgiven, like, if

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I was to do a mistake, I want to be forgiven, too, so that we can

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move on the loss of energy and not forgiving. Yeah, thank you

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brooding about in anger are that simply leads to more hurt to

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ourselves? Or to the other person? Yes. And that's like,

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that's like, more we brewed?

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The more we become anxious, more muqaam negative. And we may

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become more paranoid about this is happening that play No. But

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on the other hand, we express in a bra appropriate manner, our

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display here about the thing, and then saying, Well, I'm

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sorry, this happened, I forgive you. And let's go.

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The sooner said that, the better life for both people involved in

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it. Yes, yes. And so I cannot move on. I cannot move on

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without reconciliation. Yeah, reconciliation takes place on

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the process of forgiveness. And forgiveness comes from based in

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that we all love each other.

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Yeah. And sometimes you cannot speak to the person anymore.

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To ask for forgiveness. Can we talk about how? Yeah, how can

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you deal with that? When you when you have to forgive

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yourself? And there's nobody out there who can do the job for

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you? There's nobody out there who can you know, forgive you?

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Is it possible through meditation for example, to to

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learn to forgive yourself without? Yeah, like I said,

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without being able to see the other person?

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Yes, yes, it is.

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You know, I personally believe in prayer. You know, I believe

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in prayer,

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that there is a power greater than me.

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You know, I can seek forgiveness from that power and guidance

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from that power. So I pray for, for example, my personal

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background is a Sikh, you know, follow this

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sick faith, which is based on the teachings of Guru Nanak.

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Like we have other faiths based on different groups.

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So, the prayer is emphasized a lot to the Creator, that even if

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I don't have to go to anyone to seek forgiveness, I can just

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say, oh, Lord, you know, I'm your child, I have made a

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mistake, please forgive me and give me the guidance to move on.

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And also, please forgive the person who I have or may have

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offended, and heal them to at the same time, so that these

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prevail

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in both our lives, yes.

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The more we do that, the more it becomes part of our thinking.

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Instead of negative thinking, that kind of automatic thinking,

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starts

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appearing in our mind and provides us the energy

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motivation to move on. Rather than be stuck. You know, the car

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is stuck in the

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ice or in the snow.

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Wheels like that. Mm hmm. Can I move? So we have some kind of

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support. Here, some breaks or some sandbags and all or some

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people's push to get it out? Right?

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So that we can be back to normal. So that's how I use

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prayer for that. And prayer is simple. There are very different

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ways of praying. You know, you can pray doing out in the nature

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looking at the tree.

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And others you know and saying the whoever made these all these

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beautiful things and I pray to that person

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make me beautiful like that too, by for forgiving me, and also

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other people who in my life I may have offended.

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So that's one way that's one way of playing. And another way of

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praying well ways. Some person, you know, meditation like for

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example, we talk about mantra, insect predation, we have the

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word Waheguru. Like for example, we say that four letters we say

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we're a law a spa means wonderful, awesome. And guru.

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That means the one who takes knew from darkness to light

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Yeah, so we say and that helps us to come now and also

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generates energy we're a go through

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a through

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a new roof. And you can have use other words, you can say Hosanna

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Hosanna. Or you can say

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or you can say something else what pleases you? I remember I

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just you, Rama Sasa say so whom?

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Yeah, that's that Kundalini Yoga people use it. And I really more

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simpler than that, there they used to nessa na sa is one of

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our sub now. Yeah.

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Great.

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So that's one way the word sa

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ma. These are examples. You can devise your own method. Yeah,

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the idea is, this is how it can work. Yeah, this is this is a

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meditation technique. And then another day, get a de Bresse out

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in the fresh air. You breath. Yes. Another stretch yourself.

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You know,

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take some day breathing Mamou yourself and all or yawn

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yourself, or some people use laughing as a technique, laugh,

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laugh, laugh, laugh so that everything shakes and energies,

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when they call you release endorphins in your body like

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so those improve your mood state. So there are numerous

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ways of doing things. They start just one way. And one thing they

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work one time and other time it may not seem to be working try

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and plan a trial, you find something that works. Yeah,

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yeah. Did I understand right? That in praying and using

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meditation, in stretching and moving your body, you

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you use your mind as a tool to guide you wherever you want to

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go. Instead of your mind using you and Miss guiding you maybe

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like you are dragging your mind, like a muscle you're training

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your mind with new thoughts with I feel like when we do the

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Waheguru it's a I don't necessarily have to understand

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what it means. But the sound is very healing already.

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Right?

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That's right. So the whole idea is

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programming yourself more positively. Exactly. Exactly.

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And that's the whole idea. Yeah. Because Because it's, you know,

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like, for example, when I was in the hospitals or outpatient when

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I created with a team with a depression, or anxiety disorder

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or some other serious disorder, I have them they do their

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assessments like nurse to do the same assessment psychologists do

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psychological assessment, vocational rehab, to do the

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vocational assessment, and I will do the psychiatric

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assessment, and then family

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social work into family assessment. Then I will ask

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them, you know, during your process, I not only need

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information on their background in your, you know, their

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assessment along with that, I also need the list of assets,

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what they see in the particular patient, not liabilities,

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liabilities, I say they're everywhere. And now all the

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time, assets plus our time, people can come in many assets.

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And they will come with the liabilities Oh, this

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dysfunctional family. This doesn't know they already gave

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this. I said Look, I didn't ask your liabilities. I asked you

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assets.

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their seats. Yes. I said Well,

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I don't know. They're no essence over here. I see. Yes, there

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are. As I look, his eyes or her eyes are working you

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Yours

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can smell, can feel,

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you know, the high school graduate education, they can

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read and write.

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There's some hobbies they can learn.

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While those are assets, right, let's try to make use of those

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assets.

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help encourage them to learn some cooking something

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to cook so that they can have independent exists, and they can

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feed themselves.

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Teach them how to pray. don't pray for them, but teach them

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how to pray constructively, where they can learn, they can

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read and write.

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And give them a book like chicken soup or soul or positive

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thinking or some other we can read an article. We can discuss

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with them, feed them some exercise, which will make them

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feel better improve their circulation, yes. And help them

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encourage a breathing. So all those things they can learn.

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Yes, they're all provide them the spiritual, physical mental

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tools

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to conduct themselves better, feel better, and move on in

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life. So all these registers? Yeah, they will be surprised

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people will be surprised where I am coming from all those things.

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Yeah, otherwise, that dysfunctional family they know

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much you can do that's the way it is. I said, No, that's not

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why that person is here with us. The person is here with us for a

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purpose. And our job is to try to dig

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to create positivity. Yeah. And that is based on our proper

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assessment of the situation. Ah, this is so critical. And then

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you can truly empower a person and, and show them that they

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have so many tools to help themselves and you just yeah,

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put the awareness back onto them. And the mindfulness, and

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then they can heal themselves, improve your posture, so that

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you can

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be in a less painful situation, that even if you undergo

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surgery, in some cases, which is absolutely necessary, you

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undergo surgery, you're still going to need a rehabilitation

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process. And that rehabilitation process is going to require

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motivation, and cooperation and collaboration so that you follow

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those exercises

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and follow those new health needs, you know, take your

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medications properly, your vitamins, and also. So it cannot

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be just surgery can fix everything, and medication

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cannot fix everything. There has to be a complete lifestyle

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change, depending on what we're dealing with. Yes.

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Sometimes I feel when trauma happened. So let's say someone

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that you really love passes away, or you have a car accident

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and your body is fine, but you are still very, very scared from

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the from the collision. Sometimes shock and emotional

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shock can result in physical pain.

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And

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how can we work with that? How can we make people aware that

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yes, your body is aching, but it is up here that we have to start

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releasing pain and releasing the story and move on is Is there

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any, like more techniques than meditation and prayer?

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Yes, first of all, you know you need a leader in those kinds of

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situations, especially when they're severe, you need a

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therapist.

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You can develop confidence and listen who will sort of

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guide you through that traumatic process, you know, healing

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process. Like for example, most important

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to start with is ventilation of the feeling pain and talking

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about what happened and how you know threatening it was and how

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you miss it person who disappeared from your life or

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the accident.

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After you had done that for a little while, then you come to

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grips with the situation now it is going to be there you notice

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painful we have to move on to change their life.

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And that movement is going to need learning how to prevent an

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accident again.

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Like let's say someone was let's say someone was looking at their

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cell phone while going through the guard when it became into an

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accident. So let's send in the cell phone

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Any more that way.

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Stop the car before you do the cell phone.

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The same way that in other kind of situation where a person has

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another last let's say they lost a job, that they have to look at

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the what could possibly the reasons for losing the job?

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Can we make a change so that those kinds of things won't

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happen again in the next job when you get it?

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Otherwise fatal? There you repeat the same history? Yes.

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So one has to look at not Yes, just hop from one situation to

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another another thinking that there will be

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some sort of

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quick healing take place, it just doesn't take place that

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way.

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You have to figure it out. You have to spend some time honestly

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looking at what went wrong, and know how to prevent it not for

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them to happening again.

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Yes, sometimes you need an assistance of a initially a

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friend who may be able to help you. If that's not enough,

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because not everyone has all the time. They need you need a

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therapist. You can also use a self help book. You can go to

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the Barnes and Nobles in our stores and find a book which

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will resonate with you use those things, or you do an internet

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search for those are the right internet groups are are right on

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they're available dealing with these kinds of issues, too. So

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there are many things available, but one has to look first has to

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figure out what they need.

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Before they can go on to actually identifying.

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Yeah, they can trust that they can help themselves. Like

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sometimes people are searching for external help and crutches

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you know, and sometimes you need to ask for help. But you at the

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same time you have to trust that you can help yourself as well.

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And you mentioned cell phone.

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Technology is the last point I want to address with you because

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I watched a beautiful video the other day about

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a man talking about technology is not a bad thing. It is

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awesome. It is such a tool. It is the way we use it the

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compulsiveness that

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really, yeah makes us sick in our mind because we become so

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addicted to these things here.

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If somebody who's listening now feels like yeah, there's lots of

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compulsion when it comes to their phone and social media.

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How would you What would you advise them to to do to free

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themselves again from that addiction?

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Well, there's several things you can do. You know, first thing is

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that they have to be aware that this is their problem. Yes.

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Okay. Now, once they know that is their problem, they can do

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leave the cell phone in the room and go out on the beach. That's

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just an example. Walk around without it. Yeah.

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Go Live was going on even before the cell phone came that came

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into existence?

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Yeah. And then after they are home, then now they can go to

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the cell phone. And now this is self discipline, these are calls

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self discipline techniques. Yeah. And then then the other

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thing they can do is they can give their spouse for example, a

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friend cell phone here, you know, you take care of it, I

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will don't give it to me, I unless absolutely necessary.

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Those again, part of the self discipline. Another thing is,

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they have to develop some hobbies they like, you know,

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drawn, the reason why they're sticking to cell phone is

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because their life is empty, the time is empty, and they don't

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know really where to go. So one cell phone is away. There is a

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panic, because they lost the support. They lost the support.

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Yes.

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So, so to experience that sort of situation and trying to

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divert your energy into different areas. So you create a

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more wholesome and pleasant lie, and less dependent on one thing.

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Yes, yeah. And this is how you also create resilience, right?

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Like I feel.

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A lot of people use their cell phone because they feel a

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connection with their people. They see people approve of their

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pictures and then

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Various staples. But you, you also can find that out in nature

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and you can find it when you meet people, one on one and to

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just have that balance again. And not that intense addiction

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from one from one little tool, right? That's exactly the

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happiness lies in moderation. Hmm, middle way, middle way, it

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doesn't lie in extremes. Yes, you are needing a very good food

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in large amount can make you sick. Look into the steering

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when we dry the car, if you go like this, and that you can get

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into accident, but you keep on going like this. Maintaining the

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balance and move on. Yes.

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That is such a nice metaphor. That's Yeah, everybody will

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understand that one.

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Think of the steering wheel.

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This is very, yeah.

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So the road is uneven and road is you know, some time bumps.

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Sometimes they send that but you keep your steering wheel and

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adjusting going on. Those bumps are normal in life. And downs

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are normal in life. But we don't get stuck in them. We keep

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making our way through. Yes, yes. And knowing that you have

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several anchors in your life, like your friends, your family,

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but also yourself to help you in a stressful situation to have a

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strong coordinate, right?

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Why you know,

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good meal, for example, a simple meal, people may say, Oh, I want

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a steak. Steak doesn't mean just a piece of steak. Here are some

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potatoes, you have some veggie tables, you know, you may have

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summarize, you may have something else you miss some

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condiments and all those things together make a meal. Yes, not

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just a piece of steak, right say aways life is supported by many

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things. And we have to be aware of them and use them and as we

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go along. Yeah, and not just me overly dependent on one thing

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and forget about everything else. Mm hmm. then that becomes

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a lopsided development. Yeah, the whole so whole, some

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are harmonious development requires using all those

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resources as needed. Our goal is to move on, keep driving on and

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we use whatever is necessary as a tool in our life. But we have

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to learn and provide those tools are temporary,

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that we know don't know when when we need them. Mm hmm. That

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is so beautiful, very, very good.

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If there was three things that you would recommend, a person

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that is struggling with anxiety or depression, before we we end

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this episode, I would like you to yet give us three tools

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that a person can start from today on to to make them feel

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better.

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Good point first,

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have them make a list of things which make them anxious

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at random, whatever, you know, maybe they come and knock out on

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them choose three

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and see which they can manage some

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then start doing the one if that is completed, then they can go

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to the second and then third.

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Or if they cannot complete achieve one then go to the you

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know one next which is possible. The whole idea in controlling

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anxiety is to remember the serenity meditation. God grant

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me the serenity to accept things I cannot change.

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courage to change the things I can and wisdom to know the

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difference. A

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lot of time people are focusing on things they cannot change,

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brooding, worrying panic because they can change. But that's not

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how we end a life.

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Put our emphasis on things we can change as we change those

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things which are changeable and better.

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that generates your

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generates confidence.

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And that confidence is able to

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overpower and swallow those negative things and many of them

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take care of themselves.

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So this differentiation, what began change and what we can

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achieve it makes a major difference, or you will handle

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the anxiety or depression or any other situation in life. Yes.

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Once you make the

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identify those things that you can change and work towards

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bringing about a change in those areas.

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Your capacity to handle and restructure your life

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will be substantially improved. Leading to

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calmness. Jove, presidents, huh? This is so beautiful. I feel so

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calm and content right now. Because

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I feel Yeah, it all resonates what you do. And it is very

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simple. We just have to, yeah, take baby steps, very small

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steps. And do what you said in writing out a list and

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differentiate between things we can control and things that are

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out of our control. And then we can, yeah,

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live. Another thing. Another thing I'll suggest is, in

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addition to that, find a buddy.

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You know, who you can discuss?

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And who can help you? Like, let's say you need to go out to

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work. But you don't feel like call your buddy and say, Hey, I

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should be working in lead buddies. support that time in

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Alcoholics Anonymous, and all those kinds of things. Yeah,

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have somebody some person who can you and your spirits a bit

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down? You don't want to do it. But you know, you need to do it.

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Yes. Yeah. To be accountable. Yeah. To have the social support

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and accountability. And yeah, that makes lots of sense too.

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And third thing is third thing, yes.

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keep a journal of your positive accomplishments.

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And then go over it every now and then to reinforce that

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positive healing as possible.

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positive changes are possible, because when people are really

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anxious, or depressed or otherwise out of source, they

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develop what they call memory loss.

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You know, they can not everything seen they develop it.

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The only way to come out of the tunnel vision is to reconnect

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things that you have done in the past and when successful,

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reviewing them

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give you a positive reinforcement and renewed

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strength, people.

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Those are the three things I suggest. Yes, like very, very

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powerful. I will make sure to write them down and put them in

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the show notes.

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And then yeah, maybe also your contact info if there's people

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out there who want to reach out to you.

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Thank you from the bottom of my heart to to making the time and

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to sharing your wisdom here today with us. It was so very

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precious. And yeah, thank you so much. You're most welcome. My

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You're most welcome. My suggestion as for contacting me

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will be they'll need to come through you. You can contact

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because I am involved in so many things that I do not have to

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make individual calls. I will make sure that they contact me

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first and then I forward.

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Yeah, then I will be glad to answer your questions as needed.

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Wonderful. Thank you so much. If I say welcome. Thank you for

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asking me to come on your program. And anything else in

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the future I may help to facilitate please let me know.

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So much. Bye. Bye. Have a blessed day. You too.

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Well, thank you so much for listening to this episode. I

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hope we were able to Yeah, provide you with some tools that

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help you out. If you feel like being in a funk. Feel free to

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reach out to me if you have any questions. And I can Yeah, make

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