Ep.31 How do you problem solve? [productivity,mental health]

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Hello, and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm

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your host Aurora. And I'm so grateful to have you here. Yeah,

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spending some time with you today. I hope you enjoyed my

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interview with Sean. The other day, and yeah, today I'm very

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happy to be posting another episode, I had a day of working

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on my website and slightly severe meltdown, because of my

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phone working something with the software and yeah.

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Having to address it tomorrow again, but very annoying as you

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can imagine.

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We're also dependent on these devices. It's incredible. But

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yeah, when they function, they're awesome. Today, I want

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to talk about resilience. In season number one, I had one

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episode about resilience already. So if you're really

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interested about that topic, feel free to go back and listen

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to that episode too. And today, I want to talk about how

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important it is to have a support net. And what do I mean

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by support net?

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It's not necessarily people, yet, it can be people.

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But if you think about

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my example, today, being super annoyed and upset with my phone,

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I had to keep focus on what is functioning in my life, and what

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can I do?

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If my phone is not working? What can I do in Wi Fi zone?

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How can I not make this issue with my phone effect my whole

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life, my whole mood, maybe you're very good at it, maybe

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something like that wouldn't majorly push you out of balance.

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But I think there's a lot of people out there just like me,

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who

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maybe even overreact or are too focused on problem solving mode

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and being annoyed and upset and disappointed mode.

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So if you can identify if you can relate, then this episode is

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exactly for you, dear person out there.

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Thank you for being there and making me feel less alone. So it

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is very, very important that in these moments where our brain

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is kind of taking over a whole life. And we want to get rid of

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that nuisance

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that we learn to have moments, minutes, maybe hours in between

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where we can focus on something else. Because if you bite onto

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that problem like a pitbull, yeah, you can get to your goal.

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But But at what expense?

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Are you going to be nasty with people like you going to be that

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total elbow person? Or are you going to neglect other things in

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the meantime that are important to

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have in mind, just because you want to solve that one problem.

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So coming back to my example today, I just took my dogs at

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some point and went for a little walk. And it really helped me to

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free my mind and to go into birds perspective. And to be

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more okay with the fucked up situation I was in.

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And we all have to do that at times.

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I talked about death a couple of weeks ago. And there it is the

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same thing.

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Totally sad and depressed for a couple of hours. And then I

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thought, Ah, no, I have to

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show action. I have to be there for the people who suffer more

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than me in that moment who suffer from that loss in a very

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direct way. Because for me it's just indirectly because a person

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is in France and I love that person so much but for the

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person who spent their entire life with him. It must have been

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so terrifying. So

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Instead of indulging in my sadness, I decided to be

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proactive.

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And this is what we can do. When we are in a shitty situation,

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like, zoom out for a moment, of course, unless you're there and

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bleeding out.

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But if it is a minor issue like I had with my phone or with my

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laptop, or whatever,

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put it aside for a moment and focus on something that is more

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important, or from a different nature. And that can kind of

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calm you down again.

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Take a deep breath in between as well. At this point, I want to

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thank you guys and girls to be out there.

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Yesterday,

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as I said, I focused on my website,

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wanting to provide you with more content, more videos.

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And I really missed record in an episode here. So I'm so grateful

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that you receive my message and that you digested well, and

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maybe yeah, reflect about it and can use the couple of tools here

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that I provide for you, here and there to make your life easier,

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more flowing, and to

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have more enjoyable relationships, in depth

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relationships.

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And there are two when it comes to resilience, you will see as

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soon as you learn

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to

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not throw the towel in as we say in German.

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But to see as the problem as it is.

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And then see the people around around you again, and being able

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to listening to them again and be there for them again. Because

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that might be way more important than that little issue that you

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might have with your devices or with something else that is

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super, super annoying. To take out that intensity of having to

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solve something is also very, very healthy. Because some

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people react with headaches. I for instance, react with stomach

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pains and gut inflammation. And if we learn to be more smooth,

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more, I don't want to say less say fair, but more okay with

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shed going sideways at times, it also benefits your health, if

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you are able to go to bed at night. And

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to

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just see the problem as it is, but know that sleep is so

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critical. Drinking water, eating good food, having a one bed to

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go to at night, and to being able to fall asleep and to have

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a deep restful sleep is so so much more important than when

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you are going to solve that problem. We all have those

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problems at times, and people will understand how annoying it

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is. And they will not judge you if it took you a day longer or

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10 minutes longer if it was for your health sake.

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So

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take a moment now and be grateful for this little moment

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of peace here because maybe you had a shitty experience just now

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and decided to tune into my episode. And afterwards, you

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will look at it maybe with different eyes, maybe you're

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more relaxed. Maybe you came back to your breath. Maybe that

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problem is solved.

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Maybe your heart rate is lower and more constant and calm.

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Maybe you're thirsty and you're just gonna drink a big cup of

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water afterwards. And know that with a fresh mind. You can

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address a problem from a different angle. Maybe you need

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to ask for help. Maybe you can solve that problem by yourself

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and you really shouldn't.

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Maybe this problem is gonna

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make sense at some point and then you look back in a couple

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of weeks and think oh my god

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Ah, this is when I met my best friend, or this is how I

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discovered another thing that is very precious in my life. Now,

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of course, the best friend is not a thing, but you know what I

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mean? So, too bad situation as shitty and cliche, it's sounds,

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there is always a good

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side to it too.

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And maybe in those moments where we come become most irritated,

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we can just, I don't know, just dragged our monkey mind into

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that position like, oh, yeah, I just broke my leg. But what if

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it is something good? And yeah, it is stupid in that moment, if

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you imagine a person breaking their leg now and thinking about

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the good thing.

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But try it out. It is fun. Now the brain then can neutralize a

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situation and you can react more rationally instead of

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emotionally and from a very annoyed, irritated space.

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So this won't be the last episode about resilience. I will

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post way more because I know I still have to learn to be more

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resilient to have a more peaceful state of mind and

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joyous life. But for now, that said, Have a good rest of your

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day. Take good care of yourself. And I will drink a huge glass of

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water now because I'm super thirsty.

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Until next time, bye bye