Ep.30 For men only. [masculine energy]

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Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

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experience. I'm your host over what it is Sunday morning. And I

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decided to record an episode today for men only. Of course,

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I'm gonna see in my

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analytics of my episodes here, how many women actually

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listened. But yeah, let's see what we have to say what I have

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to say here on my little podcast show about self care for men.

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Why do I feel like we have to separate self care between

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masculine and feminine energy?

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I believe in polarity, I believe that opposites attract.

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And this is why

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I can see that self care for men can look very differently than

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self care for women.

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Maybe I'm totally screwing this up, and men will be approaching

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me and telling you this is absolute bullshit. But I'll just

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give it a try.

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And we see what comes out. I'm also excited if there is

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a feminist approaching me soon, because I will be posting more

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and more about this topic. Because I feel there is a need

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for it. And my puppy on the background is crying here right

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now because he wants the attention.

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But it will all be fine. I'm very open for discussions.

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So let's dive in.

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Self care for the masculine. First off, if you know who Joe

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Rogan is, then I don't have to talk about it any further if you

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don't check out his podcast, because I feel during COVID

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especially.

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So when we can't get together and mingle with our friends with

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our sisters and brothers out there. Joe Rogan's podcast is

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really awesome to listen to, and you feel kind of part of a cool

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masculine conversation. They're

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very engaging and very interesting topics they talk

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about their. And another person I'm highly, highly fond of, is

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Jordan Peterson. He was gone from social media for quite some

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time, had really deep struggles and suffered a lot. And now he's

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back on stage. He's back out there. And helping especially

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men with mental health problems and standing up for

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for men.

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And it's very interesting how He sees things. And the work he

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does is extremely valuable and important for our society.

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So what do guys do when they want to take care of themselves?

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I would say

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drinking, partying, video games, Netflix thing, maybe porn,

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hooking up with random girls.

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Fast food. That's kind of the image I have. And please know

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again, if that's the first time you're listening to me, I'm just

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talking about my thoughts, my experiences. And if you think

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it's different than please message me and we can talk about

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it.

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So that is I think, what people mainstream Lee think that guys

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do when they take care of themselves.

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But today, I want to talk about the really deep nourishing

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practices that you can do as a man when you're by yourself

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instead of indulging in ice cream and fast food or

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10 hours of video gaming. So a bath is really awesome. If you

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have a bathtub then please use it once a week or once every two

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weeks. Because it really feels so awesome to have your skin

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completely soaked, and covered and warmth. And showers, of

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course, are good too. But Roth is a little different.

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And then what's your food?

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That's a no brainer, I would say, talking to a friend on the

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phone, some guys, I think have to overcome the fear of

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coming across as too feminine. And if you have friends who

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would look down on you, then maybe it's time to find new

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friends, who you really can talk to on the phone, especially now,

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when we can meet up with each other.

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And it has to be a person that really makes you feel good too.

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And it doesn't matter if it's an acquaintance or

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family member or a friend.

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It's really important that you choose a person that inspires

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you that you look up to and who truly cares about you. Because

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that make you feel that can make you feel so good. It can

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literally make your day and then exercising, how do you approach

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exercising? I know a lot of guys out there, girls too. But guys

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just as much feel very uncomfortable in their skin, and

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they exercise and do all these heavy lifting stuff, because

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they want to change, they want to be someone different. And so

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they approach exercising with kind of a punishment mentality.

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Instead of making it a joy as experience. So if you go and do

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sports, maybe observe yourself what your main motivation is. Is

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it weight loss? Is it?

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Yeah, wanting to build up muscles because you feel

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insecure? Or is it?

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Like those hormones that come out? The oxytocin and just

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taking good care of yourself that is motivating you to

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exercise?

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And then

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when we think about

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now COVID How does it feel for you?

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I don't know in which situation you are. Maybe you live with

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roommates, maybe you live

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back home now you had to move back to your parents, or maybe a

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sibling? How do you feel about your living situation? Because

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that too, highly affects how you feel about yourself? Do you feel

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isolated? They feel lonely? Do you feel frustrated?

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Do you feel scared? Regarding the future? Or jobs? Maybe you

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lost your job? Or maybe you are

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at a cross section? Where do you where you have to make a

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decision? And do you have people around you who can support you?

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Or who can leave you alone with with Yeah, asking questions

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about what you're going to do in the future.

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And then in general, are you okay being alone? Or does that

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feel uncomfortable? Like when you look at yourself now when

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you're by yourself?

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You engaging in

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distractions or even destructive, self destructive

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behavior?

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Do you feel like you have to fill up your time with Netflix

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and video games or drinking or porn?

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To feel okay about yourself? Or can you imagine?

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Just yeah, spending time with yourself quality time, like you

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would with a dear friend.

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Can you imagine reading a book or going for a walk or doing

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something that really deeply connects you back to yourself

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again, or you go and get a recipe from from Google and

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really cook something nice and nourishing for yourself.

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So those are things that we can do that are truly good for

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ourselves. Instead of engaging and

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yeah, binging binging things that are not good for your

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mental health and your physical body.

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Then do you feel understood by your family and friends

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In general, and

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do you feel that they get you that they are good with who you

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are, and they don't want to change you. Another thing I want

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to talk about today is crippling expectations.

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Maybe you have a girlfriend or

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parents who you feel have expectations from you and you

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feel you have to fulfill them, otherwise, they will react

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dramatically and put you in, in a really uncomfortable position.

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I fear expectations are the number one thing that can

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destroy relationships. And

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sometimes most of the times also makes a family member feel like

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the black sheep and the person who doesn't want to belong to

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the family.

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Because it

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gives you that deep feeling of not being enough

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not being okay with who you are. And no one wants to feel that

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everybody wants to feel acknowledged and seen and

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appreciated for who they are. And if someone comes along, that

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you truly care about, but they have those expectations from

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you, that you can fulfill, then it just makes you feel so so

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shitty about yourself. And it's very hard to get out of a

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situation like that.

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So

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this is just a quick intro into men's health into mental health

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for men. And again, I want to separate it from women because I

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would approach

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mental health for women very differently.

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If this is the right approach, give me feedback. If this is the

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wrong approach, give me feedback. It'd be awesome.

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Otherwise, I'm just going to continue like I did right now

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today.

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I hope I was not talking too fast.

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Take good care he warriors out there.

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Because we need you. We truly need you every woman who says

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that she doesn't need a man in her life.

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didn't get the memo. Like

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I think I said it in previous episodes to hear it is not about

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if you have a penis or not. It's all about if you feel you're

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living in your masculine energy, or if you're living in your

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feminine energy, and we need each other, like a woman

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could never convince me to say that we don't need men and we

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can do everything on our own. And that equality is the key.

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Because I don't believe that equality exists. Polarity

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exists, where opposites attract and opposites support each

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other, we complement each other. And if we are

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completely

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like clones, if we are exactly the same, then it won't

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function. There's there has to be

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some

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polarity in order for us to function as a beautiful, strong,

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resilient society. So this was the first episode about man

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self. I truly hope that you find peace today that you feel

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understood and seen. And that you know that you're a badass

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person because your energy is unique and no one can replace

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you. You are one of a kind. And we need you out there shining

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brightly. Until next time. Take good care. Bye bye, Aurora.

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Hello, and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm your

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host Aurora and I'm very excited for today's episode number 31.

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Thank you so much for yes

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supporting my podcasts listening to my meditations and my

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inspirational talks on a regular downloading, subscribing,

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sharing, liking all means so much to me and I feel highly

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motivated to continue and to bring your peace and love and

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reconnection with yourself really, I feel that's the most

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important thing we can work on.

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When we live in confinement, COVID isolation, or when we have

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time for ourselves. yesterday's episode was for men only I

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talked about, yes, self care for men and mental health. And

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if you're curious enough, then please go ahead and listen to

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it. Of course, it's open for everybody. And today's episode

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is for the ladies out there.

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Yeah, let's get started. I hope you feel beautiful. I hope you

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feel good in your skin, I hope you enjoy your body and

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are at peace with what you have, or what you might not have, that

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you focus on the things that you have in your life, instead of

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what could be should be.

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So if we come talking about the body,

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how's your relationship to food? Do you restrict? Do you punish

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yourself? Do you feel shame? Or do you have a very natural

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approach to food intake, I think Food and Tech is one of the most

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important things

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in life that can keep us sane and healthy. But as ladies, we

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have that

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deep connection with food and beauty and maybe anxiety to

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lose the beauty of our body at some point. So aging.

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And this podcast here is for you to be at peace with yourself

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finally, and to let go of expectations and to let go of

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pressure and self hate and self destruction and just enjoying

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your body. pleasuring yourself,

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being there for you when you really need it, instead of

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seeking it from outside sources.

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When it comes to mental health, I could ramble around for hours.

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But when it comes to mental health, I want to focus with you

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ladies on the self talk. So when you are in a group of people,

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which hahaha it's probably not possible at the moment with

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COVID, but will be possible again in the future. But what

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are your thoughts when you are among girls? Or with guys in a

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group of people? Do you feel jealous? Do you compare

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yourself? How do you feel in your skin?

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Then, when you are with yourself? And when you're trying

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to get things done? Or when you're trying to take good care

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of yourself? Where is your mind then? Is your self talk very

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positive and warm and soothing? Or is it very harsh and? And

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critical?

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Then we have the soul?

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The soul? Have you found your purpose yet? Do you know what

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you are here for on planet Earth?

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How about having children?

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Did you

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think about it recently? Is it a thought that crosses you on a

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regular or do you not waste any time when it comes to

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being pregnant? And having a child?

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In a very interesting question someone asked me before was do

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you see yourself as a child avoider to avoid any kind of

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contact with children? Do you see yourself as an aunt? Or do

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you see yourself as a mother and just know that there's so many

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roles that you can fulfill on this planet earth that are so

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needed out there? And it doesn't have to be motherhood? Right?

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Like

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I don't want to see or hear

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Are you suffering from

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society expectations and expectations from your family

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that you have to have a child or, or any expectation really,

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but especially when it comes to having children because you are

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so much more than just a baby bear and machine. And if you are

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the plain mother, and this is your goal, then please stick to

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it and blossom and cherish and relish everything about it. This

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is just for the girls who maybe don't know yet, or maybe don't

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want to have children, just know that you are deeply needed in

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society, even if you don't choose to have children.

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So let's go back to the physical. How have you been

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feeling physically lately? I know. January can be a very

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tough month

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physically because of Christmas, and we may be over indulged in

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food. But it's also a few Christmas was not really present

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this year, because of COVID. It is a very dark month, it is a

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month of

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Yeah, coming to an end with last year and new beginnings, and

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uncertainty and even the light, I really call it the dark month.

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The light of the sun is still very low and doesn't really

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give us much energy. So we have to give these things to

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ourselves.

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I don't know much about you. And as I said previously, in my last

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episode, I'm working on a website, because I'm burning to

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know who you are and what you're struggling with to make this

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podcast more of an experience for yourself.

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So I don't know where you're at when it comes to the physical

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body.

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One thing I want to mention is, I had a friend back then, in

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high school, and after she showered, she always took the

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time to put lotion on her skin. And I was always the kind of

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girl who all had to go fast and I wanted to be ready as fast as

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possible, I used makeup, but I don't know, I didn't really

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cherish those moments. So maybe next time you have a shower, you

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can

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take an oil or body lotion, and just massage your wrists and

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your four arms and maybe your upper arm, and then your thighs

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and your calves and your feet.

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And

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just take a moment and appreciate your healthy body. If

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you have a healthy body, then know that you're blessed and

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that we should be thanking our bodies every day for the service

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they

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provide us

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if you say that in English,

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you know what I mean?

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If you're struggling with health issues, then

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maybe you can focus on the body parts that are not aching that

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are healthy and and focus on those parts and encourage your

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body to be healthy again and help him out. Because your body

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always wants to fight and does everything for you to be in a

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healthy state. So if you support it from

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like the outside with your hands and massaging it then you can do

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a lot of good.

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And another thing is meditation when you sit in meditation and

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find that peace,

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that stillness,

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then

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a lot of the times we can reconnect with ourselves and

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send gratefulness into our heart. And

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that feeling that we then carry out into the world. That deep

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feeling of calm,

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soothing, healing life carries out

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to other people. And that is what people perceive as beauty.

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And you being at peace with yourself will also help you to

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let go of it.

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habits, like smoking, like binge eating, emotional eating.

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Or if you're on the other side of the spectrum, like, not

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eating enough punishing yourself, it can bring you back

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to your initial like to your core.

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And this is why those meditations here are so critical

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for me to post because this is how I learned to be at peace

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with my body. And I'm 35 years old, and

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I think I've never been happier in my skin that I am now.

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I don't weigh myself, I don't.

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Yeah, I was gonna say I don't judge myself anymore. I think

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that's the hardest thing to do when you look at yourself in the

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mirror. But I really came to peace with what I have, and

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enjoy my body way more than I used to. So meditation just

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connects you back to yourself and makes you appreciate the

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healthy body that you possess, and makes you want to take care

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of it. Like when you can imagine a mother,

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a young mother or a pregnant woman, how she kind of rubs her

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belly and feels good in her body and knows that there's something

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growing inside of her eye. Think I strongly believe that we as

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woman, we don't need to be pregnant.

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To send that deep appreciation and happiness into our body

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cells. We can do that right now. In the moment.

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So as you can hear maybe in my voice I get really emotional.

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And this is so dear to my soul to get this message out there

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because so many women out there are so beautiful and they can

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see it themselves. And through this podcast, I want to

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remember you of who you were and of how beautiful you are and of

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how much we need you out there to shine your light. All right,

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this was the first episode for you ladies out there. I hug you

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so much.

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And maybe spoil yourself to a little meditation here or have a

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good warm shower and

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put some oil onto your skin afterwards. Until next time,

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this was me Aurora that I