Ep. 27 Inner child work, remember the child living within you

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Hello

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and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm your host

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Aurora, life coach and companion on this beautiful journey called

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life. I know life is not always beautiful and easy and fluffy

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and rainbow, and unicorns, it can get pretty rough at times.

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And that is the time when we need to reach out, we need to

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ask for help, we need to open up and admit to where we're

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standing at. If you want to learn more about being raw and

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honest with yourself, go back to my latest episode called Can you

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admit to where you're standing at. With a coach you will also

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explore your strength you will be reminded of who you are and

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what you're made of. And that is usually a very, very strong tool

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to push you through challenging times. And to get you to a place

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of contentment and even success. With a coach you can also

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explore what your weaknesses are, and not to put you in a box

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and to keep you and victim mentality. But to become aware

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of the beliefs and things let's call them that hold you back in

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life. Sometimes it's hard to see them yourself. And when you get

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them gently pointed out by a neutral person. So to say, it is

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easier to make changes that are sustainable, that are gonna

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affect your life in a very positive way. Let's dive into

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today's episode, I want to talk about child like behavior that

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we want to embrace. Again, it is so important to not forget how

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important playfulness is. And today I don't want to talk about

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playfulness only. I want to talk about things that we can learn

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from children. And you don't necessarily have to be around

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children. You don't necessarily necessarily have to like

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children. When we talk about being childlike, again, it is

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just necessary to remember how it was to be a child and to

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today, as an adult, give yourself what you didn't receive

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back then as a child. As a child, we are way more present

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with what's going on right now. Yes, we maybe remember a couple

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of painful experiences, but our life has not been long enough.

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And our brain has been more focused about what's going on

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and trying to learn new things adapting and growing. And I find

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that very inspiring. You know, especially when the going gets

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tough. It is important to focus on the present and to find out

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what makes us feel okay, what makes us feel good. What gives

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us strength, what makes us feel important, and seen and hurt. As

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a child you want to experience you want to grow you want to

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express yourself and I know for many adults, not only parents,

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but adults surrounded by children. It can get really

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tough at times when the child is expressing his or her needs.

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Because it comes out so randomly, you know you go for a

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walk and all of a sudden the child has to go to the bathroom.

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Or you go to the cinema to the movie theater. And all of a

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sudden the child expresses that he is hungry as an adult. We

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have learned that we have control over our physical needs

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and we know our body enough we know that yes if we are hungry

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Now we will be able to wait an hour or two and will not die

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from this. But as a child, you express your needs right away.

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When it comes to pain when it comes to discomfort, and tired,

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it's very hard to force to be sitting for several hours a day.

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I know we all do this to children at school. But you see

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the wild children out there that are just not made to be sitting.

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And that's perfectly fine because it's uncomfortable. So

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where as an adult Have we started to compromise a little

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bit too much to a point that we are abusing ourselves in order

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to wanting to fit in. Because as a child, we learn Okay, now

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we're not supposed to ask questions. Okay, now we're

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supposed to be quiet on now we're not supposed to be thirsty

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or hungry. Now we're supposed to be sleeping. Now we're supposed

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to be awake, we learn to fit into society. But we also

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unlearn who we are at the same time. And I find it very, very

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interesting as an adult, to see. Where are you cutting yourself?

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Short? Where are you being too rigid with yourself? Where do

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you not allow yourself to be authentic and real? Where do you

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hold back? Where do you suppress. As a child, you're

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constantly learning new stuff. And you're fascinated by the

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weirdest, smallest things. And now, don't get me wrong, it's

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not about being silly and finding everything exciting

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again. But can we bring a little more joy and curiosity and

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excitement back into our lives. For instance, next time you bite

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into a peach, I don't know the next time you're going to have a

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peach in your hand. And maybe you don't like peaches, but

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something really yummy and juicy. bite into it as if it was

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the first time buy into it, thinking of all the people who

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made it possible for you to have the speech in your head now.

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Learn new hobbies, learn to exercise in a different way,

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explore your body, learn to see where you're holding back where

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your inner dialogue is similar to man, I really would like to

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experience this again. But I am too old. But I'm not made for

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this. But I don't have enough money. But my body is not going

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to be like I'm not going to be able to enjoy this. What are the

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beliefs that are holding you back when there's something that

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you're actually really excited to experience? Of course,

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there's lots of differences between children, you know,

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there's children that are very shy and scared easily and not

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really adventurous. And there's children that are totally, you

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know, they do first and then think. But we can learn from

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both. I feel both are inherently authentic. They feel okay with

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who they are, until the adults come around. Most of the time,

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of course, not all parents but most of the time and try to

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change them because they feel they're going to help them to

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fit in better. When did you stop having fun? When did you stop

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having fun? Was it a comment from a neighbor from a parent

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from a sibling that made you stop dreaming? Is it conclusions

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that you made about yourself after your first huge

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heartbreak? What are the things that you are inherently curious

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about but you're too shy to explore? And this can really be

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everything. Another thing I'd like to address today is that

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sometimes

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We rejected a dream. Because at that time, we were surrounded by

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people who were not in alignment with that dream, or people who

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were living this dream already. And we thought, we don't have it

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in us to do the same, we don't have the same resources. So we

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don't deserve to have the same amount of joy, pleasure and fun,

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like the person we are observing. It is really

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important to see, who are you surrounding yourself with? And

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are these people making it impossible for you to be playful

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to expand and to grow? Or are you playing small with the

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people you surround yourself is that people that are in your

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life, because you want to take care of them, and you don't want

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to make them feel bad. And all of a sudden, being a different

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person, being yourself again, you know, sometimes we lose the

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people that we surround ourselves in, in becoming

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ourselves. And it is a natural process. It's a necessary evil.

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But sometimes we stay stuck in a situation. Because we are scared

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to lose the people. We don't want to be alone, we want to be

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long. But then again, you're cheating. You too, cheating

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yourself into a situation that is not good. You're not being

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honest with yourself, you're trying to fit in, at all cost,

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you're trying to stay in your little comfort zone at all cost.

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But it is going to cost you at some point, be it physical

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illness, be it mental illness. You know, depression doesn't

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come from nowhere. It comes from suppressing, it comes from not

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being able to express yourself anymore. This is what makes us

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feel numb. It is not the cause. In everybody who's fighting

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depression. I'm very aware of that. But most of the people I

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talk to I get to know, on a deeper level that are fighting

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depression, have learned to suppress their voice, their

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soul. And that started to make them seriously sick. So I invite

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you to explore your childlike behavior. And again, I don't

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mean by that, that tonight at the dinner table you throw

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around with your spaghetti sauce. I mean, be curious. See,

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wherever you can find joy. And what I've noticed in myself over

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the last couple of weeks is the world is crumbling, the world is

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in a deep suffering, state and chaos. Can I allow myself to be

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happy and content and joyful? No, I need to be sad, I need to

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be suffering as well. And that is wrong. Yes, I can be sad, I

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can feel the suffering from others, I can feel my own

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suffering. But if I'm ready, again, to be joyful to be my

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powerful self, then it is my duty to live up to that and to

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express it and to show it in order to inspire the people

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around me in order to give people hope, in order to remind

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people that, hey, if we are to all disappear from this world,

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on one day or another, why should we not be doing something

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meaningful? We shouldn't be sitting there and fear and

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sadness, I think we should start and go do something meaningful,

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be it for ourselves or for somebody else. Live your

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authentic truth to the best of your ability and you will know

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who you are and you will make the decisions that are best for

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you. And those decisions are going to have a huge positive

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impact on your community, on society, on humanity as a whole.

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