Ep. 1 Jealousy that eats you up and online dating-how to not be a creep

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Hello, and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm

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help this podcast out immensely. Alright, let's dive into today's

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episode. It is going to be about jealousy and online dating.

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Those two topics have been requested by two people, two

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dear listeners. And I felt like putting it together in one

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episode, because it just goes together very well. And I feel

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feel you will benefit from it immensely when it comes to

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dating and your self worth. Let's start out with jealousy.

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Jealousy is a nasty little bugger of feeling that makes

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comic figures turn green, and yellow and all kinds of colors.

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It is a feeling that can really eat you up from the inside. And

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to be honest, social media, where we spent most of our times

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when we're not working or socializing or

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pursuing hobbies, is really something that can ignite that

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ugly feeling inside of you

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with today's episode,

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and I posted an episode about jealousy already, but with this

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one, especially, I want to help you to feel better about

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yourself and to feel less jealous when it comes to other

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people. Maybe you're pretty good at it already. And you don't get

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too distracted, to sucked in to the negative feelings that

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social media can bring out. But maybe you're still struggling

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with that. So this episode is perfect for you. Also, when it

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comes to online dating, I will share some tips and tricks with

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you on how to not scare off a girl that you're interested in

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on how to not be a creep.

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Alright, jealousy. Next time you feel jealous, I want you to look

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at yourself, and to really be honest with yourself. So you

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might be jealous at somebody who looks perfect on social media.

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The thing about looks is that first of all, we can all use

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filters nowadays. And second of all, people who put a lot of

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time and effort into their physical appearance

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are hard working, dedicated people. It is really, really

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tough to see how. Yeah, some people just think oh, yeah,

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well, she was born beautiful. He was born with big muscles. And

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that's it. No, I think that if you change the story about it

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and know that these people put a lot of energy and effort into

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that. And that you can do exactly the same with your own

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personal results. It changed the whole dynamic of jealousy a

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little bit. So instead of feeling jealous, and upset and

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irritated, feel inspired. And when it comes to physical

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appearance, you know like the long shiny hair, the curse the

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big muscles. That's just a little part of what makes you

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jealous.

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The radiant energy that

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A contentment, the acceptance that those people live in, is

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what I believe we are jealous of, because this is so hard to

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achieve. And this is so much of what we crave feeling and of

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what we want to be close to.

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So if we know that, about jealousy when it comes to

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physical appearance, again, that's just a small part of

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being jealous about somebody. But then know that these people,

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first of all, put lots of effort and work into it. And know that

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you can feel the same way these people feel once you start

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investing in yourself. And that doesn't mean putting on tons of

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makeup and running to the gym. That means yes, exercising and

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taking good care of your body. But then finding something a

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hobby, that gives you joy, and that makes you feel so good

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about yourself.

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Give me a second here, maybe you think oh my god, Aurora that I

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don't get what, what it has to do with people making me jealous

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on Facebook. Bear with me. Once you have found what truly gives

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you joy, you will be happy to share it. Maybe you are a person

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who loves to ski Do you love your machine, you love to work

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on cars and ski doos and you reach like beautiful parts of

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the world with your engine, and can take beautiful videos, then

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share this about your life share what excites you, what makes you

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feel good, and what you're good at. And once you do that, you

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will see that you will be like a magnet, you will attract people

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into your life that have the same interests, or that you made

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really curious about yourself.

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And what does this has to do with online dating? Well, I

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believe everything. Because you know, when we meet somebody is

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usually like old fashioned in person. And you not only listen

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to their words, you watch their body language, you maybe

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see how they interact with other people, you can read all these

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little messages in between the lines, the nonverbal cues.

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And when it comes to online dating, it is so tough because

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first of all, there's over 2 billion people out there on

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social media. And second of all, we are being deprived of those

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little social cues. So the best thing you can do now is we go

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back to the jealousy part, as you find out what is it that

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you're excited about? What is it where you're completely an adult

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joyous, radiant mode, and then share this with the world. You

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will not only reduce your jealousy when it comes to other

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creators out there, but you will be able to shine brightly and to

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attract the people into your life that want to connect with

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you. Yeah, you will not be running around after the

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beautiful girl that you saw a couple of pictures of and trying

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to connect with her. No, they will come to you. And you can

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still reach out to people and message them. And you will feel

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that it will come from a way more confident place because you

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know a little more of who you are and what you have to offer.

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And for the other person it is exactly the same. You know when

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it comes to dating women,

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the most important thing is that you feel confident and good

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about yourself and that you make her feel safe. Trust me there's

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so many creeps out there so many weird people. And when you

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manage to approach a woman with confidence and not scaring her

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off, then you are one out of a million.

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Who can Yeah, make it one step closer to her.

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One thing you have to know and I want to share that with guys,

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and you don't have to.

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Yeah, you can keep it a secret and just keep it in the back of

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your

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Mind is that when a woman crosses an empty parking lot at

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night, all by herself, she feels fear. And that fear is

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accompanying us, or you say, accompanying us.

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Do you friend of us through our entire life? Of course, if

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you're going to ask 10 girls now, there's going to be the odd

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one who says, No, I'm never scared. But nine out of 10 girls

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are going to say, Yeah, I feel uncomfortable. And if you bring

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that feeling up in a girl when meeting her, then you lose. If

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you manage to make her feel girl safe, you are an absolute

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winner, without making her feel weak, of course, but making her

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feel as if she is worth being protected. Right? That is the

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feeling we want to feel as a woman. And again, there might be

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the odd feminist out there that I'm upsetting with this.

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Awesome, I love upsetting feminists. But all women want to

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feel safe and cared for. So how do you go about it? When it

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comes to online dating? Well, first of all, have a beautiful

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profile picture of yourself, where people can see who you

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are. And again, if you don't feel confident with how you look

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like, then you should work on that first. Then next,

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see what kind of hobbies She's pursuing. And comment on that.

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You know, girls want to receive compliments when it comes to

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their physique. But if that's the first thing that jumps to

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your mind, when you look at her profile pictures,

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I have to stop here, because it is probably hard because most

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women post physical stuff out there. But if there's just a

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little bit that is more like a hobby, or animals or whatever,

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then jump on that instead of commenting her physique already,

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because this is what nine out of 10 guys are gonna do. And for a

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woman, it's Yeah, weird, because when one side she wants to hear

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it on the other side, she might want to, yeah, talk about

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something else. And her beauty is just something that is there

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but don't needs to be commented right away. So when it comes to

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online dating, once again, put something out there that people

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can see you and know what you're all about. That makes it easier

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for people to connect with you. And second of all, when you

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approach someone make it about their content, and what they put

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out there, the effort they put in to that instead of getting to

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physical and maybe even sexual, that's something that is a huge

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turnoff, and will get you into the general inbox instead of the

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primary inbox. So I hope these little insights help you when it

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comes to dating, please always reach out to me on Facebook or

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Instagram. Ask questions sent requests for episodes. I love

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doing that so much. And when it comes to jealousy, see it as

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inspiration to work on yourself and to do everything possible.

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That makes you feel good. Of course, it's not going to be

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watching porn, binge eating cookies and popcorn or running

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after people who Yeah, you think are worth running after it is

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about focusing on yourself and seeing what you can bring out in

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yourself that brings you joy. And that in return will make you

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turn into a magnet magnet that will attract wonderful people

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that want to support you and want to be around you. Alright,

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don't forget, sent me a little review on Apple podcast, and I

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will be out there on Friday again, episodes will be

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published Wednesdays, Fridays and Sundays. Thank you endlessly

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for your support. I love spending time with you. And

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yeah, take really good care of yourself. Bye bye